Personal growth differs from GDP in many ways. It’s all about the quality, not the number. Do you want to improve in any particular aspect of your life? Check out what’s growing in your veggie garden right now. Determine what is helping you and what is preventing you from achieving your goals. If you eliminate the stinging nettles and bindweed from your garden, you’ll have more room for strawberries, aubergines, or whatever else makes you happy.
If you want to improve yourself, you must first go within. The following are five ways in which you may increase your personal development.
Self-awareness is the first step towards becoming a better person.
When it comes to life’s path, most individuals are on autopilot most of the time. Instead of responding, you’ve trained yourself to react. You’ve made the tactics you’ve used in the past your defaults. Because they have “worked” for you in the past—in the sense that you have at least survived whatever life has thrown at you—many of these learned habits were etched in stone throughout childhood, and you implicitly trust these techniques.
Self-awareness will help you notice and challenge these automatic responses in the context of who you are now. You may see them as absolutely acceptable and innocuous in certain instances, but you may come to understand the polar opposite is true. The choices that worked well in the past may no longer be the greatest fit for you as an adult. These acquired habits may be positively toxic, and as a result, they are holding you back in your work, relationships, and other aspects of your personal and professional life.
Not judging oneself for allowing these “ways of being” to outlive their usefulness is vital as this process unfolds. Don’t feel bad about using drugs in the past, since it’s possible they helped you get through some tough moments. The key is to accept them for what they are, be grateful for what they have already accomplished, and then, with the newfound clarity you’ve gained, select another path—one that will benefit you both now and in the future.
Secondly, you have to be in charge of your
Control—having the ability to make decisions—is something we humans want. Control is something we all want, at the very least. Control is often associated with safety. As a rational cognitive brain in action, “If I am in charge of circumstances, I can protect myself and I will be secure.” is totally reasonable.
We are hardwired to seek refuge from harm. Darwin argues that this is the reason we are still alive today. Living evidence of natural selection may be found in us. It’s going well so far. We are, nevertheless, distinct from other animals because of our brain’s growth.
We no longer have to live in dread of our bodily safety in the same way that our forefathers and foremothers formerly did. Although we aren’t immune to dread and the anxiety that goes along with it, anxiety is one of the most disabling diseases in the industrialised world today.
In contrast to anxiety, fear tends to be grounded in reality, while it isn’t always the case. However, we waste much too much time worrying about things that are beyond our control. What matters most is where our attention is directed. What do we hope to be able to influence? What do we have the power to influence?
Of sure, we are the only ones who can solve this problem. There’s nothing else to say. Although external events have a role in our life, the most important thing we can do for ourselves is how we react to and interpret the situations in which we find ourselves. Inside, all of this crucial work is being carried out at full speed.
Focus on your ideas, values, and beliefs if you want to take charge of your own destiny and the destiny of others around you.
Acknowledgement
The number of times you swear daily? It doesn’t matter whether you say it out loud or just in your brain. Resistance is the source of all energy.
We surrender our control when we let anything that “happens” upset ours tranquilly. There’s nothing wrong with being annoyed by someone, a technological issue, or simply a running notion in your brain. Like a ship at sea, your emotions have no ability to propel you forward if you allow them to get the better of you.
Negative ideas, perceptions and irritations should be dealt with in the same manner as physical triggers according to Shirzad Chamine, developer of Positive Intelligence, For example, you instantly set down a hot pan upon picking it up off the burner. The burning sensation should subside in 10 seconds or less if you have a low pain tolerance.
Hence, we frequently find ourselves fixated on a single event throughout the remainder of the day, if not for multiple days at a time. Is there any sense in this? A similar event has previously occurred. That’s out of our hands. What’s the point of contemplating what may have been if it weren’t for this? What was wrong with the person? Because I was so naive. Instinctively, I knew what was best for me. What might I have done better?
Even if some of these questions aren’t beneficial in and of themselves, they might be a springboard for productive action instead of idle speculation. “In the future, I should listen to my gut and my heart as well as my mind when making an important choice,” you can write to yourself if you ask yourself, “Why didn’t I listen to my intuition?” Three heads are always preferable to one. [3]
So, the ten-second rule is the best way to go. For 10 seconds, take a deep breath and concentrate on the emotion you’re feeling—whether it’s an annoyance, rage, disappointment, blame, self-pity, or whatever—and let it go. Take a deep breath and let it go. Keep your emotional passageways clear by releasing them into the ether. As a result, you’ll have more room for positivism and practical ideas.
If we believe “this is happening to me,” Eckhart Tolle advises, we are doomed to succumb to self-pity, feel like a victim and lose our power.
The word “accept” is a vital part of this sentence. Acceptance is a peacemaker’s best friend. Don’t say “no,” accept, and go on with your life if you’re trying to better your own personal development.
Being Aware of Oneself
Just how well-versed in your own psyche are you? As a person, how do you view yourself in the eyes of the world?
What others think of me is not my concern, and it has been ascribed to many prominent individuals. So, in terms of personal development, how beneficial is it?
We may be tempted to sacrifice our values to get the approval of others. Culture, whether it’s family or national, may limit your self-assurance and prevent you from being yourself.
Dig deep and unearth your own self—the genuine “you”—if you want to know yourself. Starting with a list of your key beliefs is a good place to begin. Your self-esteem, self-confidence, and sense of purpose will all improve when you are aware of your values.
Confidence in one’s talents is not as important as one’s ability to articulate one’s wants and desires without fear of being rejected.
Honneth applies this approach to childhood traumas that may have occurred. With the guidance of a professional, you may better understand how your reactions and views of the past shaped who you are now. You are likely to have secret beliefs that greatly restrict your potential, your self-worth, and your pleasure. So, let there be light.
As Miley Cirus puts it, her shadows “signal me that I am standing in the light.”
You can determine where you are, where you want to go, and how to get there by learning about yourself. You will evolve as a person to meet your goals and desires.
You Don’t Know
Accepting what you don’t know is an important step in the acceptance process for personal progress.
Solace may be found in knowledge, like a warm blanket. Perceived knowledge does not offer security, as is well-known. Indeed, there is a lot of “knowledge” and “confidence” out there that is merely opinion.
Accepting what we don’t know is a crucial step on the path to personal development in a variety of domains. Stress and anxiety may be reduced by allowing yourself to relax and trust. You’ll be shocked at how much more energy you have when you quit trying to “control” and “know” what’s going on around you.
Lastly, some words of wisdom
Your personal development path will be aided by a greater sense of awareness, inner control, acceptance, and genuine knowledge. You can only progress if you know who you are.
