Here are a few couples therapy exercises you can try with your spouse:
Appreciation exercise
Take turns sharing with each other things you appreciate about one another. Focus on specific actions, traits or behaviors you appreciate and how they make you feel.
Active listening exercise
Choose a topic to discuss and take turns speaking for a few minutes while the other listens without interrupting. The listener then reflects back what they heard the speaker say, to ensure that they understood correctly.
Conflict resolution exercise
Choose a recent conflict you had and take turns describing how you felt and what you needed in that situation. Work together to come up with a compromise or solution that works for both of you.
Dream exercise
Take turns sharing with each other your individual dreams, goals and aspirations. Discuss how you can support each other in achieving them.
Appreciation letter exercise
Each partner writes a letter to the other expressing their appreciation and gratitude for the other’s contributions and qualities in the relationship. Take turns reading your letters to each other.
Conclusion
Remember, these exercises are meant to help you strengthen your relationship and communication skills, but if you feel overwhelmed or if you’re experiencing serious relationship problems, consider seeking the help of a licensed couples therapist.
